KES Lewis
Being wrong at times is not an issue. We all suffer from it. It is built into our psyche. But there are times when a person’s “wrongness” displays more than a mere miscalculation of the facts.
Sometimes, being wrong is the result of a distorted view of the world.
There is a marked difference between the terms “high-maintenance” and “high-value” when it is used to refer to women. Even though the former term should never be used, when it is, it is often necessary to offer a correction.
A high- value woman is all of the following and more.
- She is prudent and discrete.
- She is self-sufficient.
- She is respectful of money and time.
- She eschews outward labels like “gorgeous” and “good-looking” and is instead so comfortable in her own skin that her beauty extends beyond words.
- She is honest. She does not need to manipulate but instead is straightforward and direct in both her assessments and articulation.
- Though confused as being “high-maintenance” by those who have never met her, she is wise enough to smile and move on, reserving her attention for those who comprehend her worth. Not that she needs external affirmation.
- She also understands that the word “maintenance” is used of things that are broken and or in constant disrepair and as such need constant attention. She does not need that type of attention, while she, like all of us, experience brokenness, she is not defined by it, but instead has a widely expansive sense of who she is to the point that she would never use “maintenance” to describe her or her sisters.
In defense of all high-value Vincentian women. A nod of the head, a smile, and appreciation.