Dear Crystal,
It’s been 15 years since my wife Monica and I have been married, she was my high school sweetheart with whom I have shared many joys, tears, and aspirations. We have two beautiful boys, ages 9 and 5. We brought our first house in a great area, and we are living in the quintessential lifestyle.
I would say we have a healthy sexual relationship, but over the past few years, we have considered some additional options to enhance our current behind the door experiences. We talked in depth over the course of a year about cuckolding: We agreed to find her a “bull.” This was for her pleasure, not mine. We started our quest searching for someone that she has interest in. It was a difficult undertaking on such a close knit island as we need to ensure confidentiality to not hamper our professional lives. I had a conversation with my best friend Shaun about this, and he suggested a few friends of his. Many of the suggestions were not to her liking. After about 11 months, we found Greg, he recently repatriated to the island after spending his adult life in Canada. This was a perfect situation, Greg checked off the boxes…
Privacy [ X ]
Tall, Dark, Handsome [X]
Endowed [X]
We exchanged telephone numbers with Greg to build a rapport. He called, and she would spend an hour and a half speaking with him, as I stayed downstairs to give her some privacy.
I can hear her laughing while communicating with Greg, these conversation occurred daily over the course of 6 weeks, he would send her messages in the middle of the afternoon asking her to send pictures of her as she was at work. One afternoon out of the blue, she received a text from Greg asking what we were doing that evening, she expressed the boys were at a sleepover and we would just be relaxing for the evening. He asked if she was ready to meet in person, she was. Later that evening, Greg arrived, we had cocktails and appetizers over conversations about growing up in Canada, travel, and sexuality.
While we spoke, Greg rubbed Monica’s lobes as we spoke, she massaged his thighs, I felt apprehension, but I was excited at the prospect of Greg pleasuring my wife in ways that I could not. I went to refresh her cocktails and from the kitchen, I could see Greg had his hands in Monica’s blouse. She came over, gave me a kiss and told me they were going upstairs. I stayed downstairs listened to laughter turning into moans and screams. She called me upstairs and I walked in to the most erotic scene beyond my imagination.
I knew Greg we endowed from the photographs shared, but he was more larger than I was. I can see from the look on her face and the sounds she uttered were unlike those I’ve ever heard in our 15 years of marriage, we had found the one. Our escapades with Greg continued over the course of the next 6 months, when things took a turn, Monica began changing the rules of engagement.
She started seeing Greg on lunch dates and what I thought were girls trips included Greg. There were many boundaries set before we walked into this situation all of which Monica violated, when we spoke about it, I told her I wanted it to stop, she said I was being paranoid and I’m only upset because she’s being sexually expressive, and I need to chill. I love her and I do not want to ruin our relationship. I know I have opened Pandora’s box, but this was a mutual decision. I’ve seen Greg at the Gym and we are civil, I cannot fault him for anything as I was instrumental in bringing him into our lives. What should I do? Thank you for your help in advance.
On the Brink
Dear On the Brink,
It is safe assume that you both have discussed all the possibilities that can happen once you enter into these sexual situations (By the way what is Greg’s number? just kidding, I’m trying being funny). On a serious note, and for the readers understanding, cuckolding is making another man a cuckold by having sexual relationships with his wife INTENTIONALLY. First of all, I want to applaud you for taking a step back and placing your wife’s ultimate sexual happiness above yours, that is extreme love, you must have a lot of patience and understanding. It is quite clear that your wife has violated the terms and conditions of your agreement, and to what extreme? We are unsure.
At this point, you will need to communicate your exact feelings to Monica. As you mentioned, you have opened Pandora’s box… Clearly you did. You established your boundaries, but my question is: Were the boundaries clearly defined or did she have her own assumptions of what those terms were? Obviously it has reached a point where it is affecting you, and now you are unsure of where your wife’s loyalties lie, communication is key. It seems like you really want what is best for your family, let’s not forget that the children, your precious little boys are also a part of this equation. How is all of this going to affect them? It seems like both you and Monica are going to have to go back to the drawing board and redefine what you both want out of all of this. Talking about it would provide more clarity for the both of you and what would be the best decision going forward. I would also suggest you explore couples therapy to further explore remedying the situation. I do not think your marriage is unsalvageable, therapy will help to put a lot of things into perspective, this was meant to be an addition to your relationship, not a replacement.
Best wishes,
Crystal Clear
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