Can you imagine my relationship of three years is potentially over because of my political preference? It happened a recent family gathering after church on Sunday at my boyfriend’s parents home. We were having lunch and the conversation came up at the table, during the conversation it was quite clear that we shared quite different political views and we supported opposing parties. We had what I thought was a healthy debate, but I could tell that after leaving the table, something didn’t feel right. I thought we’ll get over it, so I took it for nothing. While taking me home in the car, this man had the nerve to tell me that I disrespected his mother by the way I responded to one of her comments, and also that he did not know that I was supporting said party, to which I responded what difference does it make and that I thought that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Big mistake! Why did I say that? it turned into a huge argument and since then, things haven’t been the same. Should I stay? Should I go? Is this a red flag?
Guilty by Political Association
Dear Guilty by Political Association,
It’s quite unfortunate that a conversation that should have been a simple difference in opinion has brought you to this point. I would suggest that you and your boyfriend address the issue at hand so that it doesn’t fester and get worse. You would know if you should stay or leave based on his reaction or the end result of the conversation. Tell him how you felt and highlight the issues that sent up red flags for you. There is nothing wrong with having opposing political views, it all boils down to communication and mutual respect. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. If it doesn’t work out, dust yourself off and try again, the right person is out there waiting for you. Always keep in mind, love has no political association.
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